Look, I hear you. In an age of FaceTime sex, sexting, long-distance sex toys, and, ofc, actual sex-sex, phone sex might seem like a dated relic left over from the pre-internet days of remote banging—the kind of thing the Sex and the City gals might get up to (and did in that one episode where Miranda realizes her phone sex fling is phone-sexing with other people, ’member?). But listen, the lost art of phone sex is actually one of the best remote sex options we have available, IMHO.
Hear me out. It’s less pressure than FaceTime sex—no need to get yourself camera-ready!—and more intimate than sexting, particularly for those of us with a voice fetish. It’s basically the perfect middle-ground option, and if you’re not doing it, you’re missing out, JFYI.
Obviously, phone sex has long been a go-to for long-distance couples—and for good reason! “If your partner travels for work, phone sex is a way that you can both bond and experience pleasure together despite being apart,” say sex and relationships expert Jordyn Hakes, host of The Horny Housewife podcast. That said, it’s definitely not *just* for LDRs. “Participating in phone sex can also help sharpen your sexual communication skills and hopefully encourage you to express your fantasies and desires to your partner more freely, allowing you to learn more about one another,” says Hakes.
Translation? Phone sex is a low-stakes, high-reward way to enhance intimacy in literally any relationship, from hot-and-heavy eff-buddies to long-term lovers. Whether you’re brand new to this old-school but never antiquated form of remote sex or just looking to up your phone sex game, help yourself to these expert tips. No need to thank us—go forth and get on the horn.
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