Pssst, This Reading List Will Improve Your Sex Life 👀

Widely known as the “Poly Bible,” The Ethical Slut has been a mainstay on sex books lists for more than 20 years. Consider it your thorough how-to guide on all things polyamorous, designed to help you navigate the poly lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. The third edition includes interviews with poly millennials, tools for conflict resolution, and new info on topics like asexuality, sex workers, and LGBTQ terminology.

It’s common to experience sexual difficulty at one point or another. But you deserve the sex life you want, which is what Better Sex through Mindfulness helps you achieve. In this accessible, relatable book, psychologist and sex researcher Lori A. Brotto, PhD, explores why sexual problems exist and tells the stories of many of the women she has treated over the years. Plus, there are exercises you can try out for yourself!

The Body Is Not an Apology may be the name of the book, but it’s also a mantra worth adding to your life. Through helpful prompts and thought-provoking prose, activist and poet Sonya Renee Taylor provides a template for reconnecting with your mind, body, and soul on your journey of radical self-love.

Affairs. They can be messy AF and make your sex life even messier. In this book, couples therapist and best-selling author Esther Perel recounts real-life case stories of those who have dealt with affairs, alongside incisive psychological and cultural analysis. She challenges preconceived notions about affairs, arguing that they have a lot to teach us about modern relationships.

In this book, sex therapist Ian Kerner provides useful techniques for assessing, fixing, and expanding what he calls your “sex scripts.” He also examines common sexual problems preventing you from getting the happy endings you deserve, all accompanied with the latest clinical insight, sexual science and research, and case studies. And yes, there are homework assignments, too!

The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability is designed for all genders and sexual identities and covers the span of disabilities, from chronic fatigue and back pain to spinal cord injury, multiple sclerosis, cystic fibrosis, cerebral palsy, and many others. It discusses sexual positions to minimize stress and maximize pleasure, how to deal with fatigue, pain, and spasms during sex, and more.

In this candid book, transgender activist Juno Roche explores sex, desire, and dating alongside leading figures from the trans and non-binary communities. Their first-hand accounts celebrate trans bodies and challenge the ways in which society views gender, sexuality, and relationships.

Writer Lisa Taddeo spent eight years and thousands of hours chronicling the lives of the women whose stories comprise Three Women, even going so far as to move to the towns they called home. In this nonfiction book, readers are introduced to those three women at various points in their lives who contend with the harsh realities of sex and relationships.

In this book, the authors share their perspectives on ethical non-monogamy. It challenges common views on sex, marriage, and family, breaking down long-held assumptions about human sexuality.

New York City-based therapist Esther Perel offers a new take on intimacy and sex. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, she carefully considers what creates true desire. Equipped with case studies and animated anecdotes, the book helps you achieve more exciting sex right now.

The internet and sex are forever intertwined, and this clever book closely studies how sexuality influenced the internet (and vice versa) over the years. This visual history is filled with broad themes and backstories, pioneering personalities, and eureka-moments, covering everything from porn to online dating to deep fakes.

This workbook is super helpful if you’re looking for a more interactive way to embrace and honor your sexuality. Meant to be used with your therapist (complete with therapist instructions in the appendix), it’s a practical aid in attaining a personally satisfying and sustainable sex life.

In this book, intimacy expert and counselor Michaela Boehm shares practical rituals and exercises that are designed to help deepen your relationships. Boehm humorously and sharply points out self-improvement areas to work on that you might not have noticed before.

This is the classic guide on all things self-love, complete with expert insight and informative line drawings. Sex expert Betty Dodson, PhD, provides intelligent, straightforward discussion about masturbation and why it’s an important component in anyone’s sex life.

In this practical guide, polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern expands common understanding of how emotional experiences influence relationships. She then shares six specific strategies to help move toward healthy, secure attachments in all your relationships.

Whether talking about sexual frustration with your partner, trying out new fantasies, or negotiating the terms of a BDSM scene, author Stella Harris addresses it all in Tongue Tied. This book gives direct advice on how to conquer fears, identify needs, and feel positively empowered in bed, no matter what you’re into.

Say it with me: Communication is key! Especially when sex is involved. This guide takes a proven communication method and applies it to sex for the first time. You’ll learn exercises to better communicate your sexual needs and desires, get past old issues, and revive passion in your relationship.